Support and Resources for People Who Are Transgender or Gender Expansive, and Their Loved Ones



On November 17th, PFLAG National Director of Policy Diego M. Sanchez, and volunteer Regional Director and PFLAG National board member Catherine Hyde, were asked to speak as part of the Congressional LGBT Equality Caucus announcement of the formation of the Transgender Equality Task Force. We are so proud of them both, and honored to share their prepared remarks with you here.

Diego SanchezClick here to read 
Diego M. Sanchez' remarks, made from the steps of the Capitol.

Click here to 
Catherine Hyde's 
Congressional testimony.

November is Transgender Awareness Month, a time to honor people who are transgender and gender expansive, to recognize those we've lost on Transgender Day of Remembrance (November 20th), and to educate people on the important issues around gender identity and expression.

We invite you to enjoy a free download of both of our trans-focused publications: OUR TRANS LOVED ONES... and guide to being a trans ally (linked just below), and to explore the many resources available on this page.

We honor Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDOR) on November 20th, though many people honor this day on or around this date. TDOR was inspired by the murder on Nov. 28th, 1998 of Rita Hester. Now in its 17th year, TDOR marks a day when communities around the globe commemorate trans people who died during the past year due to anti-trans violence or prejudice because of actual or perceived gender identity or expression. Troublingly, 2015 saw the murders of people who are trans--in particular trans women of color--at an all-time high in the United States. A complete list can be found on the website...a list that grows longer each month.

With the #BlackLivesMatter hashtag going viral, many in the social media realm don’t know that #TransLivesMatter was a precursor to that movement. After the emergence of the #BlackLivesMatter movement, a further elevation of these horrible crimes has come via #BlackTransLivesMatter, which has not only helped to raise the profile of those who died but to call attention to the need for better protections across the country.
As PFLAGers--as human beings--it is imperative that we boldly, loudly, and publicly honor those we have lost to anti-trans violence and hate, and speak out against violence anywhere we see it; click here to visit for information on TDOR events local to you and your chapter. And if you know of an event that isn’t included, please contact the TDOR website to add it to the list. Simultaneously, as we honor those we have lost, we must use this as an opportunity to strongly recommit to trans inclusion at all levels of our work together as PFLAGers, providing support to people who are trans and gender expansive and to their families and friends; providing education to those who still lack the understanding necessary to be good allies; and advocating for protections at all levels of government: Local, State, and Federal.
PFLAG’s commitment to people who are transgender and their loved ones has never wavered and continues to be further strengthened each year. To that end, here are a few additional resources specific to Transgender Awareness Month:

For decades, PFLAG has been proud to be a resource for parents, families, and friends of people who are transgender and gender expansive.  The resources on this page will help advise you on how to better support a loved one as they move along their journey, and to help further your own understanding of your loved one’s gender identity or expression. Knowledge is power. Listen to your loved one and educate yourself. The more you know about various transgender and gender-expansive narratives and experiences, the more you will be able to provide the kind of love and support necessary to help your loved ones grow and lead a full and healthy life.




  guide to being a trans ally

Our new publication! For parents, families, and friends of people who are transgender and gender expansive, this great new publication includes a wealth of information, first-person stories, expert input, and more. Download your copy now!

  From our Straight for Equality® project, this guide will help you learn more about what "transgender" means, become better informed about the challenges many trans people face, and learn specific ways that you can be a strong trans ally!


(Be sure to check back often for frequent updates!)



American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU)


The ACLU also works to extend rights to segments of our population that have traditionally been denied their rights, including people of color; women; lesbians, gay men, bisexuals and transgender people; prisoners; and people with disabilities.


Anti-Defamation League


Now the nation’s premier civil rights/human relations agency, ADL fights anti-Semitism and all forms of bigotry, defends democratic ideals and protects civil rights for all.


Black Transmen Inc.


Black Transmen Inc. is the first national nonprofit organization of African American transgender men solely focused on acknowledgment, social advocacy, and empowering African American transgender men with resources to aid in a healthy female to male transition.


Black Transwomen Inc.

Black Transwomen Inc. is committed to providing the (MTF) male to female community with social and economic programs and resources to empower individual growth and contributions to the greater society.


Center of Excellence for Transgender Health

The Center of Excellence for Transgender Health aims to increase access to comprehensive, effective, and affirming health care services for transgender and gender-variant communities.


Center for American Progress


Independent nonpartisan educational institute dedicated to improving the lives of Americans through progressive ideas and action.  At this LGBT section of their website, you can find helpful data and research to learn about trends and issues.


The Child and Adolescent Gender Center


A collaboration between UCSF and community organizations that offers comprehensive medical and psychological care, as well as advocacy and legal support, to gender non-conforming/transgender youth and adolescents.


Coalición TransLatin@

Coalición TransLatin@ aims to advocate for the specific needs of Transgender Latin@ immigrants who reside in the US and plan advocacy strategies that would improve their quality of life.




COLAGE unites people with lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and/or queer parents into a network of peers and supports them as they nurture and empower each other to be skilled, self-confident, and just leaders in our collective communities.


Family Acceptance Project (FAP)

Directed by Caitlin Ryan at the Marian Wright Edelman Institute at San Francisco State University and developed by Ryan and Rafael Dìaz in 2002, FAP provides research-based educational materials and interventions to strengthen families and their support of their LGBT youth. Related goals include improving the health, mental health, and wellbeing of LGBT youth; helping create an environment in which LGBT youth can stay in their homes; and informing public policy.


Family Equality Council


The Family Equality Council works to ensure equality for LGBT families by building community, changing hearts and minds, and advancing social justice for all families.


Female-to-Male International (FTMI)

An international organization serving the FTM community through resources and regular newsletters.


Gay and Lesbian Advocates and Defenders (GLAD)


Through strategic litigation, public policy advocacy, and education, Gay and Lesbian Advocates and Defenders works in New England and nationally to create a just society free of discrimination based on gender identity and expression, HIV status, and sexual orientation.


Gay, Lesbian, and Straight Education Network (GLSEN)


GLSEN works to ensure that LGBT students in grades K-12 are able to learn and grow in a school environment free from bullying and harassment.


Gender Spectrum


Gender Spectrum provides education, training, and support to help create a gender-sensitive and inclusive environment for all children and teens. Gender Spectrum also offers a wide range of resources, training and consultation to support schools to be more welcoming for all students, regardless of their gender.




GLAAD rewrites the script for LGBT acceptance. As a dynamic media force, GLAAD tackles tough issues to shape the narrative and provoke dialogue that leads to cultural change. GLAAD protects all that has been accomplished and creates a world where everyone can live the life they love.


Human Rights Campaign


HRC is organized and operated for the promotion of the social welfare of the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender community. By inspiring and engaging individuals and communities, HRC strives to end discrimination against LGBT people and realize a world that achieves fundamental fairness and equality
for all.


The National Center for Transgender Equality


NCTE is dedicated to advancing the equality of transgender people through advocacy, collaboration, and empowerment.


The National Center for Lesbian Rights


NCLR is dedicated to achieving LGBT equality through litigation, legislation, policy and public education.



A group of LGBT people who currently serve or have served in the military and their families as well as veteran and uniformed allies.


The Sylvia Rivera Law Project


SRLP is dedicated to increasing the political voice and visibility of low-income people and people of color who are transgender, intersex, or gender non-conforming.


Trans People of Color Coalition

Trans People of Color Coalition (TPOCC) is working to build a pipeline of activists to engage and connect with one another to create a “movement” of support, resources, and education in our community.


TransActive Gender Center


TransActive Gender Center provides a holistic range of services and expertise to empower transgender and gender nonconforming children, youth, and their families in living healthy lives, free of discrimination.


Transgender Advocacy Network

TAN is an alliance of transgender organizations that work at the state and local level, coming together to build a stronger transgender movement by facilitating the sharing of resources, best practices, and organizing strategies.


Transgender American Veterans Association

TAVA was formed to address the growing concerns of fair and equal treatment of transgender military veterans and active duty service members.


The Transgender Law Center


The Transgender Law Center works to change law, policy, and attitudes so that all people can live safely, authentically, and free from discrimination regardless of their gender identity or expression.


The Transgender Legal Defense and Education Fund


TLDEF is committed to ending discrimination based upon gender identity and expression and to achieving equality for transgender people through public education, test-case litigation, direct legal services, and public policy efforts.


Transgender Youth Family Allies


TYFA works to empower children and families by partnering with educators, service providers and communities to develop supportive environments in which gender may be expressed and respected.


Trans Youth Equality Foundation

Education, advocacy and support for transgender youth and their families.Their mission is to share information about the unique needs of this community, partnering with families, educators and service providers to help foster a healthy, caring, and safe environment for all transgender children.






A group of online communities for youth and adults 13+ with LGBTQ parents seeking to build community, get support, and meet new people.


The Lounge

Gender Spectrum’s online community serving teens, parents, and professionals.


Parents of Transgender Kids

Founded in 2011, a forum for sharing information, resources, and support among parents (current membership of 1300) with transgender children and teens.



Based out of Cleveland, Ohio, Transfamily is a support network created by the parents of a transgender person. The website includes free discussion boards in the following categories: all-inclusive, parent-specific, couple-specific, spouse-specific, youth-specific, children-specific.



Tri-Ess is an educational, social and support group for heterosexual crossdressers, their partners, the spouses of married crossdressers and their families.





American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU)


American Medical Association


American Psychological Association


Gender Spectrum


The Gender Booklet


GLAAD Media Reference Guide—Transgender Issues


GSA Network: Beyond the Binary


Lambda Legal and National Youth Advocacy Coalition: Breaking the Mold


Human Rights Campaign (HRC) Transgender FAQ


Matt Kailey’s Tranifesto


Movement Advancement Project



The Transcending Gender Project




(Note: if you buy any of the below from Amazon, you can donate to PFLAG National by signing into Amazon Smile——prior to purchasing.)




Be Who You Are by Jennifer Carr

A charming children’s story, written by a mom, to tell an honest and open experience of raising her transgender child and how she supported her and helped the school to support her as well.


Gender Now Coloring Book by Maya Gonzalez

A coloring book meant to provide reflection and support unity by showing multiple genders standing together. Inside you’ll find stories, pictures, games and more to encourage and remind you that you are free to be!


I Am Jazz by Jessica Herthel and Jazz Jennings

The story of a transgender child based on the real-life experience of Jazz Jennings, who has become a spokesperson for transgender kids everywhere.


If You Believe in Mermaids…Don’t Tell by A. A. Phillips

Todd Winslow, who has just finished seventh grade has always struggled with his own identity and what it means to be a boy, being perpetually measured against what his father views as the ‘perfect son.’ Philips presents a difficult gender issue to readers in a delicate manner.


Jacob’s New Dress by Sarah Hoffman

This heartwarming story speaks to the unique challenges faced by boys who don’t identify with traditional gender roles.


Meet Polkadot by Talcott Broadhead

Polkadot as well as Polkadot’s big sister Gladiola and best friend Norma Alicia, introduce readers to the challenges and beauty that are experienced by Polkadot as a non-binary, transgender kid.


Morris Micklewhite and the Tangerine Dress by Christine Baldacchino

Morris is a little boy who loves using his imagination. But most of all, Morris loves wearing the tangerine dress in his classroom’s dress-up center. The children in Morris’s class don’t understand. One day when Morris feels all alone and sick from their taunts, his mother lets him stay home from school. Morris dreams of a fantastic space adventure with his cat, Moo.


My Princess Boy by Cheryl Kilodavis

Dyson loves pink, sparkly things. Sometimes he wears dresses. Sometimes he wears jeans. He likes to wear his princess tiara, even when climbing trees. He’s a Princess Boy.


Pinky and Rex and the Bully by James Howe

Pinky’s favorite color is pink, and his best friend, Rex, is a girl. Kevin, the third-grade bully, says that makes Pinky a sissy. Deep down, Pinky thinks Kevin is wrong, but he’s still worried. Does Pinky have to give up his favorite things, and worse, does he have to give up his best friend?


Pugdog by Andrea U’Ren

Mike and his pup are great friends. But Mike doesn’t know very much about dogs. Not only is Pugdog not a pug—Pugdog is not even a he, as Mike had thought all along, but a she! Mike feels obliged to give Pugdog a crash course on how to look and act the way a girl dog should. The only problem is Mike doesn’t know much about this subject either.


Sissy Duckling written by Harvey Fierstein and Illustrated by Henry Cole

Elmer is not like the other boy ducklings. While they like to build forts, he loves to bake cakes. While they like to play baseball, he wants to put on the halftime show. But when his father is wounded by a hunter’s shot, Elmer proves that the biggest sissy can also be the greatest hero.


The Story of Ferdinand by Munro Leaf

Ferdinand is the world’s most peaceful—and—beloved little bull. While all of the other bulls snort, leap, and butt their heads, Ferdinand is content to just sit and smell the flowers under his favorite cork tree. Leaf’s simple storytelling paired with Lawson’s pen-and-ink drawings make The Story of Ferdinand a
true classic.


What Makes a Baby written by Cory Silverberg and illustrated by Fiona Smyth

A wonderful children’s book that takes gender out of making a baby.


Young Adult


Almost Perfect by Brian Katcher

Logan Witherspoon recently discovered that his girlfriend of three years cheated on him. But things start to look up when a new student named Sage Hendricks breezes through the halls of his small-town high school. Sage has been homeschooled for a number of years and her parents have forbidden her to date anyone, but she won’t tell Logan why. Sage finally discloses her big secret: she’s actually a boy.


Freak Show by James St. James

Meet Billy Bloom, new student at the ultra-white, ultra-rich, ultra-conservative Dwight D. Eisenhower Academy and drag queen extraordinaire. Actually, drag queen does not begin to describe Billy and his fabulousness. Any way you slice it, Billy is not a typical seventeen-year-old, and the Bible Belles, Aberzombies, and Football Heroes at the academy have never seen anyone quite like him before. But thanks to the help and support of one good friend, Billy’s able to take a stand for outcasts and underdogs everywhere in his own outrageous, over-the-top, sad, funny, brilliant, and unique way.


Gracefully Grayson by Ami Polonski

Grayson Sender has been holding onto a secret for what seems like forever: “he” is a girl on the inside, stuck in the wrong gender’s body. The weight of this secret is crushing, but sharing it would mean facing ridicule, scorn, rejection, or worse. Despite the risks, Grayson’s true self itches to break free. Will new strength from an unexpected friendship and a caring teacher’s wisdom be enough to help Grayson step into the spotlight she was born to inhabit?


How Beautiful the Ordinary by Michael Cart, et al.

Poised between the past and the future are the stories of now. In nontraditional narratives, short stories, and brief graphics, tales of anticipation and regret, eagerness and confusion present distinctively modern views of love, sexuality, and gender identification. Together, they reflect the vibrant possibilities available for young people learning to love others—and themselves—in today’s multifaceted and quickly changing world.


I am J by Chris Beam

J had always felt different. He was certain that eventually everyone would understand who he really was: a boy mistakenly born as a girl. Yet as he grew up, his body began to betray him; eventually J stopped praying to wake up a “real boy” and started covering up his body, keeping himself invisible—from his parents, from his friends, from the world. But after being deserted by the best friend he thought would always be by his side, J decides that he’s done hiding—it’s time to be who he really is.


Jumpstart the World by Catherine Ryan Hyde

Elle is a loner. She doesn’t need people. Which is a good thing, because now she has to move out of her apartment so her mother’s boyfriend won’t have to deal with her. Then she meets Frank, the guy who lives next door to her new place. Frank isn’t like anyone Elle has ever met. He listens to her. He’s gentle. And Elle is falling for him, hard. Then Elle discovers that Frank is different in a way that Elle was never prepared for: he’s transgender. Elle’s head and her heart explode; her world is turned upside down. But when an accident nearly takes Frank’s life, Elle must search inside herself to find not only the true meaning of friendship but her own role in jumpstarting
the world.


Kids of Trans Guide from COLAGE

The first and only guide written by and for people who have trans parents. This guide is full of stories, advice, resources, and a voice to validate and relate to when your parent comes out as transgender.


Luna by Julie Ann Peters

Regan’s brother Liam can’t stand the person he is during the day. Like the moon from whom Liam has chosen his female namesake, his true self, Luna, only reveals herself at night. In the secrecy of his basement bedroom Liam transforms himself into the beautiful girl he longs to be, with help from his sister’s clothes and makeup. Now, everything is about to change-Luna is preparing to emerge from her cocoon. But are Liam’s family and friends ready to welcome Luna into their lives?


Parrotfish by Ellen Whittlinger

Angela Katz-McNair has never felt quite right as a girl, but it’s a shock to everyone when she cuts her hair short, buys some men’s clothes, and announces she’d like to be called by a new name, Grady. Although Grady is happy about his decision to finally be true to himself, everybody else is having trouble processing the news.


Rethinking Normal: A Memoir in Transition by Katie Rain Hill

In her unique, generous, and affecting voice, nineteen-year-old Katie Hill shares her personal journey of undergoing gender reassignment.


Some Assembly Required by Arin Andrews

Seventeen-year-old Arin Andrews shares all the hilarious, painful, and poignant details of undergoing gender reassignment as a high school student in this winning memoir.




Becoming A Visible Man by Jamison Green, Ph.D.

Combines candid autobiography with informed analysis to offer unique insight into the multiple challenges of the female-to-male transsexual experience, ranging from encounters with prejudice and strained relationships with family to the development of an FTM community and the realities of surgical sex reassignment.


Becoming Me by Mia Rose Elbo

An ongoing web comic about Mia, a transgender girl in her twenties, fresh out of college and finally in hormone therapy. She is slowly exploring her new life.


Gender Born, Gender Made: Raising Healthy Gender-Nonconforming Children by Diane Ehrensaft, Ph.D

Ehrensaft offers parents, clinicians, and educators guidance on both the philosophical dilemmas and the practical, daily concerns of working with children who don’t fit a “typical” gender mold. She debunks outmoded approaches to gender nonconformity that may actually do children harm. And she offers a new framework for helping each child become his or her own unique, most gender-authentic person.


Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women and the Rest of Us by Kate Bornstein

Part coming-of-age story, part mind-altering manifesto on gender and sexuality, coming directly to you from the life experiences of a transsexual woman.


Helping Your Transgender Teen: A guide for parents by Irwin Krieger

If you are the parent of a transgender teen, this book will help you understand what your child is feeling and experiencing. Irwin Krieger is a clinical social worker with many years of experience helping transgender teens. This book brings you the insights gained from his work with these teenagers and their families.


He’s My Daughter: A Mother’s Journey to Acceptance by Eve Langley

Lynda’s account of how she adjusted to the reality that her eldest son had decided to physically become a woman is the story of a family. Tears and laughter, support and withdrawal, accompany Toni–now the eldest daughter–as she maps out her new life. And with her all the time is Lynda, her mother. Helping to select her wardrobe, guiding her in the subtleties of speech and behavior, and supporting her, especially in the early stages of her new life as a woman.


The Last Time I Wore A Dress by Daphne Scholinski

This memoir recounts the author’s three years spent in mental institutions for, among other things, Gender Identity Disorder. Because she was a tomboy who wore jeans and T-shirts and didn’t act enough like a girl, her treatment, in addition to talk therapy, isolation, and drugs, required her to wear makeup, walk with a swing in her hips, and pretend to be obsessed with boys.


My Husband Betty by Helen Boyd

Author Helen Boyd is a happily married woman whose husband enjoys sharing her wardrobe. Boyd gives a thoughtful account of their relationship (as well as the relationships of other crossdressers she knows) in this forthright and revelatory book.


On the Couch with Dr. Angello: Raising & Supporting Transgender Youth by Dr. Michele Angello

When a single child comes out, their entire family will transition, along with their community. This is an eye-opening guide to navigating social spaces when most don’t quite understand the process of changing genders.


Queerly Beloved by Diane and Jacob Anderson-Minshall

After fifteen years as a lesbian couple, Jacob came out to Diane as a transgender man. Eight years later, the couple not only remains together, they still identify as queer, still work in LGBT media, and remain part of the LGBT community. The authors delve into their relationship to reveal the trials and tribulations they have faced along the way.


Raising My Rainbow: Adventures in Raising a Fabulous, Gender Creative Son by Lori Duron

A frank, heartfelt, and brutally funny account of Duron and her family’s adventures of distress and happiness raising a gender-creative son.


Redefining Realness: My Path to Womanhood, Identity, Love & So Much More by Janet Mock

In 2011, Marie Claire magazine published a profile of Janet Mock in which she stepped forward for the first time as a trans woman. Those twenty-three hundred words were life-altering for the editor, turning her into an influential and outspoken public figure and a desperately needed voice for an often voiceless community.


The Right To Be Out: Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity in America’s Public Schools by Stuart Biegel

Biegel begins with a cogent history and analysis of the dramatic legal developments concerning the rights of LGBT persons since 1968. He then turns to what K–12 schools should do-and in many cases have already done-to implement right-to-be-out policies. He examines recent legal and public policy changes that affect LGBT students and educators in the K–12 public school system. Underlying all of these issues, he shows, is an implicit tension about the right to be out, a right that is seen as fundamental within LGBT communities today and, legally, draws on both the First Amendment right to express an identity and the Fourteenth Amendment right to be treated equally. Biegel addresses the implications of asserting and protecting this right within the hotly contested terrain of America’s public schools.


She’s Not the Man I Married: My Life with a Transgender Husband by Helen Boyd

As Boyd struggles to understand the nature of marriage, passion, and love, she shares her confusion and anger, providing a fascinating observation of the ways in which relationships are gendered, and how we cope, or don’t, with the emotional and sexual pressures that gender roles can bring to our marriages and relationships.


She’s Not There: A Life in Two Genders by Jennifer Finney Boylan

This bestseller is the winning, utterly surprising story of a person changing genders. By turns hilarious and deeply moving, Boylan explores the territory that lies between men and women, examines changing friendships, and rejoices in the redeeming power of family.


The Social Justice Advocate’s Handbook: A Guide to Gender by Sam Killerman

A book about gender with no mention of the word “hegemony,” but plenty of references to Star Wars, The Matrix, Lord of the Rings, and Star Trek—with less of a focus on overwhelming scholarship and more of a focus on enjoyable learning. A couple hundred pages of gender exploration, social justice how-tos, practical resources, and fun graphics and comics, it offers clear, easily-digested, and practical explanations of one of the most commonly misunderstood things about people.


Stone Butch Blues by Leslie Feinberg

Published in 1993, this brave, original novel is considered to be the finest account ever written of the complexities of a transgendered existence.


Stuck in the Middle with You: A Memoir of Parenting in Three Genders by Jennifer Finney Boylan

A father for six years, a mother for ten, and for a time in between, neither, or both, Boylan has seen parenthood from both sides of the gender divide. When her two children were young, Boylan came out as transgender, and as she transitioned from a man to a woman and from a father to a mother, her family faced unique challenges and questions. In this thoughtful, tear-jerking, hilarious memoir, Boylan asks what it means to be a father, or a mother, and to what extent gender shades our experiences as parents.


Supporting and Caring for Our Gender Expansive Youth, a report from Gender Spectrum and the Human Rights Campaign

This report examines the experiences of survey respondents whose gender identities or expressions expand our conventional understanding of gender. It is designed to provide adults with a better understanding of these youth and to help adults find ways to communicate with and support all youth in their lives. The report also provides information and suggestions for those seeking to increase their comfort and competency with the evolving landscape of gender identity and expression.


Trans Bodies, Trans Selves: A Resource for the Transgender Community edited by Laura Erickson-Schroth

A comprehensive guide written by, for, and about transgender and genderqueer people.


The Transgender Child: A Handbook for Families and Professionals by Stephanie A. Brill and Rachel Pepper

The Transgender Child is a comprehensive guidebook that, through research and interviews, provides insight on how to raise transgender and gender nonconforming children with love and compassion.


Transgender Family Law: A Guide to Effective Advocacy by Jennifer Levi & Elizabeth E. Monnin-Browder

This book provides a comprehensive treatment of family law issues involving transgender persons. Various experts have written chapters that provide practical advice on providing effective representation for transgender clients. Family law practitioners representing this community often encounter challenging issues unique to transgender individuals. Some of these topics include legal recognition of post-transition name and sex, parental rights, relationship recognition and protections, divorce and relationship dissolution, custody disputes involving transgender children, legal protections for transgender youth, intimate partner violence, and estate planning and elder law. This book serves as a resource for those practicing in this emerging and constantly changing area of law.


Trans-Kin: A Guide for Family and Friends of Transgender People (Volume 1) by Dr. Eleanor A. Hubbard (Editor), Cameron T. Whitley (Editor)

Transgender-Kin is a collection of stories from significant others, family members, friends and allies of transgender persons (SOFFAs). Powerful, thought-provoking and enlightening, this collection will provide for the head and the heart of anyone who has ever loved a transgender person. Transgender-Kin is also an essential read for allies of the transgender community and anyone who wishes to become one.


Transgender Employment Experiences: Gendered Perceptions and the Law by Kyla Bender-Baird

Brings together the workplace experiences of transgender people with an assessment of current policy protections, using personal interviews, legal case histories, and transgender theory.


Transgender History by Susan Stryker

Stryker takes a chronological approach to transgender history from the mid-twentieth century to its publication in 2008 by examining movements, writings, and events.


Transgender Warriors: The Making of History from Joan of Arc to Dennis Rodman by Leslie Feinberg

Feinberg (author of Stone Butch Blues) examines historical notions of gender, how they have shifted over time, and how societies that celebrated gender creativity and variance were structured.


Transgender Workplace Diversity: Policy Tools, Training Issues and Communication Strategies for HR and Legal Professionals by Jillian T. Weiss, J.D., Ph.D.

Explanation and how-to for HR and legal professionals on transgender policy development, training and communication strategies for the workplace.


Transitions of the Heart edited by Rachel Pepper

The first collection to ever invite mothers of transgender and gender variant children of all ages to tell their own stories about their child’s gender transition. Sharing stories of love, struggle, and acceptance, this collection of mother’s voices, representing a diversity of backgrounds and sexual orientations, affirms the experience of those who have raised and are currently raising transgender and gender variant children between the ages of 5–50.


Two Spirits, One Heart: A Mother, Her Transgender Son, and Their Journey to Love and Acceptance by Marsha Aizumi with Aiden Aizumi

In this first of its kind, illuminating new book, PFLAG mother, educator and LGBT activist Marsha Aizumi shares her compelling story of parenting a young woman who came out as a lesbian, then transitioned to male. The book chronicles Marsha’s personal journey from fear, uncertainty, and sadness to eventual unconditional love, acceptance, and support of her child who struggled to reconcile his gender identity.


Whipping Girl: A Transsexual Woman on Sexism and the Scapegoating of Femininity by Julia Serano

A collection of personal essays that debunk many of the myths and misconceptions that people have about transgender women, as well as the subject of gender in general.




(Note: if you buy any of the following films or documentaries from Amazon, you can donate to PFLAG National by signing into Amazon Smile——prior to purchasing.)


A Girl Like Me: The Gwen Araujo Story (2006)

Based on the true story of Gwen Araujo, a young transgender woman who was brutally murdered by four men in 2002.


All About My Mother (1999)

Focused on femininity and womanhood, this is Pedro Almodóvar’s most sustained and sensitive look at trans women’s lives. The highlight of this intricately plotted and beautifully written masterpiece is a monologue, where a trans character talks about the price of being “authentic” in a hostile society, but throughout, the film accords trans women a level of dignity and respect rarely experienced in feature films prior to this time.


Another Woman (2008)

Lea, a transgender woman makes contact with the members of the family she abandoned years before when she was a man named Pierre. Although eventually the truth comes out, Lea decides to fight for her legal rights to oversee the lives of her children.


Beautiful Boxer (2004)

This bio-pic of transgender Muay Thai boxer Parinya Charoenphol documents her pursuit of the sport to pay for gender-affirming surgery.


Beautiful Daughters (2006)

This documentary follows a group of transgender women putting on the first all-transgender production of “The Vagina Monologues,” including a new monologue.


Be Like Others (2008)

An intimate and unflinching look at life in Iran is seen through the lens of those living at its fringes; this documentary is a provocative look at a generation of young Iranian men choosing to undergo sex-reassignment surgery.


Boys Don’t Cry (1999)

This film is based on the true story of transgender man Brandon Teena attempting to find himself and love in Nebraska before he is murdered in 1993.


The Brandon Teena Story (1998)

This 1998 documentary tells the tragic story of transgender man Brandon Teena, who was murdered in rural Nebraska in 1993.


Cruel and Unusual (2006)

In this documentary, five transgender women share their prison experiences. Interviews with attorneys, doctors, and other experts are also included.


Faces & Facets of Transgender Experience (2010)

Eighteen people and their families share touching stories about the journey from despair and loss to the joy of being the gender they were meant to be. Diversity of ages, ethnicity and background of the interviewees put many faces on what it means to be gender variant.


Girl Inside (2007)

This Canadian documentary follows Madison, a 26-year-old transgender woman, during her three-year transition.


Gun Hill Road (2011)

An ex-con returns home to the Bronx after three years in prison to discover his wife estranged and his teenage son exploring a gender transformation that will put the fragile bonds of their family to the test.


Just Call Me Kade (2002)

This documentary follows 14-year-old Kade Farlow Collins, a transgender boy living with his understanding family in Tucson, Arizona.


Lady Valor: The Kristin Beck Story (2014)

In this documentary, former U.S. Navy SEAL Kristin Beck embarks on a new mission as she lives her life truthfully as a transgender woman.


Ma Vie en Rose (1997)

Ludovic is a transgender girl who can’t wait to grow up to be a woman. When her family discovers the little girl blossoming in her they are forced to contend with their own discomfort and the lack of understanding from their new neighbors.


Middle C (2007)

This multiple award-winning two-part radio documentary follows singer Tristan Whiston’s story of female-to-male transition, including family discussion and perspectives.


Middle Sexes: Redefining He and She (2005)

Examines the diversity of human sexual and gender variance around the globe, with commentary by scientific experts and first-hand accounts of people who do not conform to a simple male/
female binary.


No Dumb Questions (2001)

A lighthearted and poignant documentary that profiles three sisters, ages 6, 9, and 11, struggling to understand why and how their Uncle Bill is becoming a woman. These girls love their Uncle Bill, but will they feel the same way when he becomes their new Aunt Barbara?


Normal (2003)

Irma and Roy Applewood have been happily married for twenty-five years and are model citizens in their community. Roy brings Irma to meet Reverend Dale Muncie, their pastor and friend, to say he will have a sex-change operation.


Paris Is Burning (1990)

This documentary chronicles New York’s drag scene in the 1980s, focusing on balls, voguing and the ambitions and dreams of those who gave the era its warmth and vitality.


Princesa (2001)

Fernanda, a 19-year-old Brazilian transgender woman, travels to Milan and becomes a prostitute to finance a sex-change operation.


Prodigal Sons (2008)

In this documentary, filmmaker Kimberly Reed returns home for her high school reunion, ready to reintroduce herself to the small town as a transgender woman and hoping for reconciliation with her long estranged adopted brother Marc


Red Without Blue (2007)

This documentary explores the intimate bond between two identical twin brothers, a bond that is challenged when one comes out as a transgender woman and decides to transition.


Romeos (2011)

Twenty-year old-Lukas is a transgender man taking the steps through his gender-reassignment treatment. His friendship with Ine makes the changes and assimilation easier. Lukas sees his romantic world open up for him as Ine introduces him to gay life in Cologne. As he becomes more and more interested in a local gay boy things get more and more complicated.


She’s a Boy I Knew (2007)

This documentary is a comic, heart-breaking, uplifting autobiography that focuses on the interpersonal relationships of a family who unexpectedly find their bonds strengthening as they overcome their preconceptions of gender and sexuality.


Soldier’s Girl (2003)

A film based on the true story of the relationship between Barry Winchell and transgender woman Calpernia Addams and the events leading up to Winchell’s murder by fellow soldiers.


Southern Comfort (2001)

This documentary records the final year in the life of transgender man Robert Eads, who was refused treatment for ovarian cancer by two dozen doctors in Georgia, out of fear that treating such a patient would hurt their reputations. By the time Eads received treatment, the cancer was too advanced to save his life.


Tomboy (2011)

When 10-year old tomboy Laure moves to a new neighborhood with family, she introduces herself as a boy named Mikhael to new friends.


TransGeneration (2005)

This mini-series looks at the lives of four college students undergoing gender transition.


True Trans (2014)

The story of punk rock singer Laura Jane Grace of Against Me! who came out as a woman in 2012, and other members of the trans community whose experiences are woefully underrepresented and misunderstood in the media.


XXY (2007)

In a small coastal town of fishermen in Uruguay, the biologist Kraken works and lives in a house at the seaside with his wife Suli and intersex fifteen-year-old Alex. When Suli welcomes her former best friend Erika, her surgeon husband Ramiro, and their teenage son Alvaro to spend a couple days with her family, Kraken learns that his wife invited Ramiro to operate on Alex. Meanwhile Alex and Alvaro feel attracted to each other.







Beauty and the Beach (Delaware)


The Empire (New York)


Fantasia Fair (Massachusetts)


First Event (Massachusetts)


Keystone Conference (Pennsylvania)


Philadelphia Trans-Health Conference (Pennsylvania)


Transcending Boundaries (Massachusetts)


Transgender Lives (Connecticut)




Colorado Gold Rush (Colorado)


Diva Las Vegas (Nevada)


Esprit (Washington)


Gender Odyssey Family (Washington)


Gender Spectrum Family Conference (California)




Gender Conference East (Maryland)


Kindred Spirits (North Carolina)


TransFaith Summit (North Carolina)


Transgender Health and Education Alliance (Georgia)


Virginia TIES (Virginia)





Camp Aranu’tiq

Founded in 2009 by Nick Teich, who dreamed of a safe & fun place for youth who felt like they might not fit in at other camps because of their gender, they have flagship summer camps in New Hampshire and California, as well as leadership programs for older teens and weekend family camps, serving 400 campers over the course of one year.


Camp Highlight

Camp Highlight is a week-long camp for children ages 8 to 15 who have a lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender parent or parents. We focus on recreational activities, nature education, and team building. Each camper is given individual attention by our experienced counselors and staff and has the opportunity to participate in a wide variety of activities. Our goal is to have each camper develop self-confidence, social skills, and leadership abilities in a safe and nurturing environment.


Camp Lightbulb

Our mission is to provide a magical, overnight summer camp experience for LGBT youth, aged 14 to 17, filled with fun, pride, community, friends, support, self-discovery and memories to last a lifetime.

Our campers come from across the US and identify along the full LGBT spectrum. Our staff reflects our LGBT community and allies. All staff are subject to references and background checks.


Camp Odyssey

Camp Odyssey is an innovative diversity training and leadership development program for Oregon youth between 14 and 18 years of age. Its aim is to help foster appreciation, understanding, and respect for cultural differences while building leadership skills. We empower young people to gain the life skills needed to become social investors, transforming not only themselves, but also their collective communities.


Camp Outdoors
The largest camp in the country for LGBTQ and allied youth 11-24 and volunteers over the age of 25, based in Arizona.


Camp Outright

Camp Outright is a week-long residential summer camp program for queer and allied youth held at the Common Ground Center in Starksboro, Vermont. Camp Outright is a traditional summer camp program with topical workshops and activities to address the needs stated by queer and questioning youth. Campers participate in a wide variety of daily activities based upon their interests, including swimming, sports and games, visual and performing arts, wilderness skills, social justice, identity caucuses, and much more.


Camp Ten Trees

Camp Ten Trees is a nonprofit organization located in Washington State. Central to the organization’s purpose are our yearly summer camp sessions—one week for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, and questioning (LGBTQ) youth and their allies and another week for children/youth of LGBTQ or non-traditional families. Camp Ten Trees is a place for diverse youth who share common experiences to come together and form a community that is truly their own.


One Heartland

At the core of One Heartland’s mission are our camp programs, which include: Camp Heartland, Camp Northstar, Camp 5210, and OneFutures in Willow River, Minnesota; Camp True Colors with locations in Minnesota, Connecticut and Texas; and Camp Hollywood HEART in Malibu, California.


The Naming Project

The first camp for Christian LGBTQ youth. The mission of The Naming Project is to provide a safe and sacred space where youth of all sexual orientations and gender identities are named and claimed by a loving God; can explore and share faith; experience healthy and life-giving community; reach out to others; and advocate for systemic change in church and society.



Ages 7-17.  Summer and fall camps include kayaking, arts, hiking, zipline, archery, bonfires, support groups, and more for transgender youth.


 For Youth:  Learn More and Connect

  • Trans Youth Resources 
    This website was created to link trans youth and the people in their lives with current resources.
  • Trans Youth Support Network 
    The Trans Youth Support Network is a partnership of youth and community members working together to support trans youth in Minnesota, but offering great resources for youth everywhere.

  • Mermaids 
    A UK-based support group offering support and resources for gender-variant children, teens, and their families.
  • Beyond the Binary: A Tool Kit for Gender Identity Activism in Schools 
    The Beyond the Binary tool kit (created by the Transgender Law Center) was designed for student leaders, activists, and gender non-conformers who want to challenge the gender binary system in schools by ensuring gender-inclusive policies exist in schools and by raising awareness about gender through education of students and staff about gender non-conformity and transgender issues.
  • Bending the Mold: An Action Kit for Transgender Students 
    Whether you’re transgender or gender non-conforming, questioning, or an ally, this kit – developed by Lambda Legal and NYAC – is designed to help you make your school a safer place. They include ideas and information to help you advocate for change. There’s also an extensive list of resources to help you connect with the transgender community and find support.
  • Camp Aranu'tiq 
    The Camp Aranu'tiq mission is to provide transgender and gender-variant youth with a safe, fun, and unique camp experience during which they are able to express gender however they are comfortable and connect with others in similar situations.It is a federally recognized, tax-exempt, nonprofit organization. It is 100% volunteer-run. It was born out of the idea that transgender and gender-variant youth needed a safe place to relate to others like them, away from home, in a beautiful rural setting where they can concentrate on what every camper loves: having fun.

  For Parents, Educators, And Service Providers:

  • Gender Spectrum 

    Raising children who don’t fit neatly into male or female boxes brings a wealth of questions and uncertainties. Here you will find information and support to assist you in your search for answers.

  • TransActive 
    TransActive works to provide the necessary support to improve the quality of life of transgender and gender non-conforming children, youth and their families through education, services, advocacy and research.
  • Trans Youth Equality Foundation 
    The Trans Youth Equality Foundation is based in Maine, but offers education, advocacy and support for transgender and gender non-conforming children and youth and their families everywhere by sharing information about the unique needs of this community and partnering with families, educators and service providers to help foster a healthy, caring, and safe environment for all transgender children.
  • Families in TRANSition: A Resource Guide for Parents of Trans Youth 
    Families in TRANSition: A Resource Guide for Parents of Trans Youth is the first comprehensive Canadian publication (created by Central Toronto Youth Services) to address the needs of parents and families supporting their trans children.  It summarizes the experiences, strategies, and successes of a working group of community consultants – researchers, counselors, parents, advocates as well as trans youth themselves.
  • Working with Transgender Youth (Lambda Legal & Child Welfare League of America) 
    Like all young people in care, transgender youth are entitled to bias-free attention to their unique needs and to be safe in their placements and services. This guide, created by Lambda Legal and the Child Welfare League of America, provides child welfare professionals who work with transgender young people with education about transgender issues and tools to help prepare them to work sensitively with these clients.

  • Trans Youth Family Allies (TYFA) 
    TYFA works to empower children and familiesby partnering with educators, service providers and communities, to develop supportive environments in which gender may be expressed and respected. They envision a society free of suicide and violence in which all children are respected and celebrated.

What Are People Saying? Media About Trans Youth

  • Hennepin County Library Book Lists 
    Hennepin County’s self-identified “trans library geek” offers recommendations of some books that trans youth may find interesting, comforting, and affirming. Many of these books can be found in libraries and available for purchase online.

  • TYFA Media Collection
    Find out about the work TYFA and advocates of trans youth are doing through media reports.